No matter what you call it, it hurts. You want to do something about it, but what can you do that won't make your life even worse? New editions of Ginny NiCarthy's books, Getting Free and You Can Be Free (Seal Press, www.sealpress.com) help you figure out whether your partner is physically abusing you and whether you are being emotionally abused - which can be even more harmful. Sue Davidson is co-author of You Can Be Free and Cathy Hoog co-authored the chapters "Women with Disabilities" and "Women who are Deaf."
Ginny NiCarthy's books Getting Free and You Can Be Free will not tell you what to do. But they will suggest exercises that help you understand your situation. They will help you decide what you want to do and suggest ways to get started. They guide you step-by-step toward the goal you choose, whether you stay with your partner or leave.
In the new (fourth 2004) edition of Getting Free you will find these entirely new chapters: Immigrant Women: Challenges and Solutions; Religious Challenges; Men Who Batter: Can they Change? Nurturing Your Children: Safety and Resilience; Moving Forward; What Communities Can Do. And lots more. For examples, click on HELP NOW.
The new (second edition, 2006) of You Can Be Free is an easy-to-read version of Getting Free, especially for women in crisis or who read English as a second language. It includes new chapters for Rural, Immigrant and Deaf Women and Women with Disabilities, as well as additional material on coping with Social Workers and Custody and Visitation challenges. Click on HELP NOW for excerpts.What others say about Getting Free:
"Hundreds of women in our support groups have found it to be a source of hope and of practical assistance. Ginny NiCarthy has our thanks and appreciation."
— Lois Loontjens, Executive Director, New Beginnings Shelter
"...a flexible, practical handbook for all of us to use."
— A Safe Place Newsletter
"You Can Be Free should be read by any woman who not only wants to understand her involvement in a destructive relationship, but wants to know all the options for getting out of one."
— Midwest Book Review.